Posted by Civilian Sair Songz (Counselor) in Councilor’s Office- Checking in with the CNS

Posted by Lieutenant Junior Grade Sovrk (Chief Science Officer) in Councilor’s Office- Checking in with the CNS

Posted by Civilian Sair Songz (Counselor) in Councilor’s Office- Checking in with the CNS
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Sovrk looked thoughtful for a minute then nodded. “By virtue of my position I will have to at least get to know everyone of my department… as well as at least the other DH and all of command for this ship. If they wish to share personal matters I will not be objected to listen, though I doubt the advice I would able to give, if any, would be what they wanted to hear.” He explained as he thought.
Lt. J.G. Sovrk, CSO

Sair studied him for a moment and much like she had been doing so far, she simply followed the next logical question. “Why do you assume it won’t want to be what they want to hear?” she asked, bracing her elbow on the arm of the chair.

~Sair Songz, CNS

Sovrk paused a moment, clearly he did not expect the logical follow-up. But then after a moment he said. “Often when seeking advice one is looking to hear what they want to hear. Those details are often easily able to be missed in most circumstances. I may be able to produce flowery words, however I will be blunt to see speak on what I see. Putting things as they are. I believe that the truth, no matter how harmful or how much one may not want it to be said, or come out, must do so.” He took a breath, he placed his hands on his lap.
lt.J.G. Sovrk

The pink-haired Kobliad nodded slightly. “Do you think that if you have reached a point in your interactions with someone that they are sharing personal information that they would trust you enough to welcome your perspective, even if it isn’t what they expect?”

~Sair Songz, CNS

Sovrk nodded. “Yes, it can be a double edged sword as well. Especially if what my opinion is, diametrically opposed to what they believe. It can cause a rift between individuals as well. Empathy is something that is lost on me. I suppose to an extent sympathy is as well.”
Lt.J.G. Sovrk, CSO

She considered him for a moment. “Is that actually true? You experience emotions, but you choose to suppress them through a culturally adopted practice. But you also struggled to learn to suppress them, so you have experienced them and they do exist within you. Can you not then extend your understanding of a situation by using you own experiences, different though they may be, as a way of understanding what another person might be going through?”

~Sair Songz, CNS

Socrk tilted his head as he gave it consideration. “Yes we do, maybe you are right. I may be understanding of the situation. But that dosent mean that I understand empathy. It isn’t something that is practiced, at least not widespread. Yes it is difficult to learn how to suppress ones emotions, especially as an overly emotional species. It ended up being better for everyone that we did.”
Lt.J.G Sovrk, CSO

“I agree it looks different for everyone, and for different cultures. It’s important that we don’t judge another person’s actions and reaction based on our own understandings, even though in practice it can be much harder. Empathy is something that has a clear definition but is going to look vastly different through the different cultural lenses around us here on the ship.” Oh, how that was true, too! Sair had been experiencing that rather constantly since her arrival and in a mixed way as well.

Sovrk nodded. “It can be difficult to try to take in somones position at times. Some times cultures are vastly different, almost to be polar opposites. It is down to culture, and personal experience.”

“But let’s look at these situations of conflict, this double-edged sword. If you were to offer an observation that does not go over well with someone, and they are reactive in a perhaps negative way, what would you do?” Sair asked.

~Sair Songz, CNS

“I generally try not to offer forward my opinion, unless asked. At that time if asked for, and then rejected I would remind them that I had only said what I had on my mind because of the fact thwy asked. With that if they didnt really didnt want to know they shouldnt have asked me.” He said giving a small shrug.

Lt. J.G. Sovrk, CSO